I think everyone has a different opinion of what it means to be in love. I’m always chatting with my friends about there experiences and opinions on this topic and of course they all have different views. Love with a partner can be intense, passionate and seem like the only important thing on earth. Its the type of love that makes you forget your friends, forget your own life, just to follow that person, just to be near them. Its a deep type of love that we all want to feel, isn’t it? For me this love is unproductive. If you’re always following someone’s else’s life what happens to your own? If you’re always looking to someone else to make you happy what happens if they leave you? I think passion is great don’t get me wrong! But we need passion without dependency. There has to be an underlying foundation of support. A realization that you are number one to this person, above all else, but that you will still work together to achieve your goals.
I think if you find yourself in relationship where you aren’t achieving anything on your own, where your dreams have been happily cast aside to make way for there’s, you have a bit of a problem! One day you will wake up and realize you haven’t lived they way really wanted to. Where ever it comes from, be it friends, family, or partner, it should make us feel special and make us feel safe.
Often when we have arguments with the people we love it affects every aspect of our lives. When we are worried about what someone is thinking about us, we often don’t realise the stress we are carrying around. This stress comes out in the form of sudden anger, short-tempers or even tears and usually to some unsuspecting person who now thinks your crazy cos you just started bawling mid-sentence! Our pain is reflected in our bodies too. We can either lose or gain a dramatic amount of weight, finding ourselves hanging out in the freezer section, eyeing off the Ben & Jerry’s…mmmmmmmm ice-cream!!!
Love is tough but also the most amazing feeling we can have. Just remember any problem we have can be solved with communication. You know those movies where the two main characters love each other but something always happens so they don’t get to say it till the end? Ahhhhh so frustrating. I hate those movies :0) The worst thing you can do is sit back and not talk about your feelings. You need to be honest! Most of all with yourself. If somethings not working you need to love YOURSELF enough fix it…xxx